Some people will argue that being an introvert, is synonymous with wanting to be alone most of the time. This is not necessary true, in Blabelle’s experience. I have met introverted people, just that-introverted. They can interact at work, parties, they even hang out but it won’t be long before you get to know that they are introverts, there’s a side to them that you just won’t break into. But good thing is as soon as you get to know this, you get to flow with them regardless….
But an ‘introverted loner’ is…. hmmmm! very different. This is a dangerous combination if you ask me. I mean picture this: a person is an introvert, and a loner…wow! How do you possibly break through to them. Those two walls {introvert and loner} are quite high, probably with electric barbed wire at the top! Simply put: access denied before you even try anything. Now, extreme extroverts get so bothered by the ‘Introverted Loner’, because why? They {extreme extroverts} just can’t figure out how someone can afford to be and an introvert and on top of that, a loner. I hope you get my drift, huh?
So when the coin is tossed in the air and we expect a head to turn up and end up getting a tail, we are consistently surprised that we end up acting contrary to how we say we are going to act…
As being the total opposite of being an introvert, yet totally click the loner part, I must say that I am growing comfortable in my skin as being an Extroverted Loner…
Truth be told that when I am in the company of many, I do tend to both act and react in a very candid way and blend into the company with much ease…
Deep down however I would rather just be by me’self… Chilling out watching and observing whatevz is goingz on… Many times this ease of blending is mis-interpreted totally by the wannabe playa types and end up messing up my rep by thinking and saying that the BasiksDawg is a smoothe type dude who can and eventually gets chics easily….
It used to bother me loads, till I recently realised that the power of self is what is controlled in a gradual sort of way…. The power of self is what we all too cleverly attempt to ignore and just plow along like the world is making its own footsteps for you…
This power of self is what made me realise that one can both be an extrovert and a loner at the same time….
Totally with you dawg.
I’m an introvert, through and through (so much that I got labelled as “arrogant” for a long time). I only started opening up when I got into business, coz it required you socialize and engage, to an extent.
But every once in a while, the introverted loner comes out and I just sit and watch, knowing if I sat still enough, the world will ignore me. Besides, observing social dynamics is so much fun!
Anyways, I think many people look at what they are (or what they’re not) and think there’s a problem with that, instead of embracing that which they cannot change and learning to use that a strength.
It’s amazing how refreshing being yourself can be!
Apologies for the minipost.
Observing is more fun than being observed.
extroverted loner… interesting combination.
i am like solo king, an introvert who is very comfortable in her skin.
Introverted loner… Stuff great thinkers are made of. Extroverted loner? That sounds like an enigma…
I’m an introverted loner plus plus.That’s why you’ll find that I’m the only person with less than 20 friends on facebook and less than 10 on twitter. I guess I’m anti-social.Don’t know
extrovert loner…..
2 x-ters in one
i have jam…you!you! (pointing accusing finger..)
I don’t know what I am. I am who I am. Dnt care 2 label myself.
no you are not an extroverted loner, you are a healthy blend of an intorvert and extovert only that one of theem is dominant find out which one
petes mama is pretty phlegmatic, i see