Self-Sensibility

18 08 2016

Piqued interest/ self-preservation/ always correct/

I must admit something.

I am amazed at people with extremely strong characters. You know those people/ that person who always seems to be so sure of themselves. Always getting IT right. If you take the time to pick 2 or 3 people in your life and when you examine their history in a little more detail than you would a copy of the Econometrics text book by Damodar Gujarati, you might just notice a certain source of this self-sensibiity. Not really sure if it is similar across all boards, but in a few cases, it comes from when the person in question is constantly encouraged by their guardian or parents. These guardians managed to fulfill their roles in making sure that they levels of belief in the child shown during the formative years of growth and development are constantly reiterated until the person in question makes his own level of progress.

What about those who always seem to be constantly grinding and hustling for meagre results in comparison to the time, energies and effort put into the hustle!

Or what about that businessman you heard about who kept hitting a dead end?

Or what about that Doctor who tells you that he always self-treats him/herself when he/she falls sick?

Or that athlete/ sports person who’s body has been ravaged by the pangs of career threatening injury and is wondering  how to get through the next phases of disappointment!

That is the phrase I should have started with.

Dealing with disappointment is a lesson in resilience itself. Different phases and adjusting mindsets repeatedly can be a menacing test of patience and at worst may make you want to just throw in the towel. How does one know that the better time to give up is not right now when things are actually not going your way, but the other extreme…

When you are at the top.

Interesting thoughts I must say…
The reasons that motivate us are similar to what keep us motivated, but not exactly the same.

That is my own assessment at thus game called life and for that matter, a certain sense of self-sensibility always makes you question yourself and deep down allow you to keep going…

Only drama is that the tough situations are really tough and more often than not make you want to quit…..





word~kept

20 07 2016

Struggles lately, hustles

Maintenance of my trust-levels…

You know that lady / guy friend of yours who always seems to be switched on and conversant with so many things going on in the world until you ask them to do something for you and they guarantee that they will do it only to see the deadline come and go… They usually are in your list of word-keepers. You know them, those colleagues/ friends of yours who have been reliable since time immemorial huh! The ones you can call on at short notice to first of all share a situation and thereafter create a handle on the situation to everybody’s relief.

Well, I used to be one of those people…

Not extremely trusted per se, but well more often than not I came and have consistently come through for those that not only requested but indeed needed some form of assistance. Lately though, I am starting to notice that many if not most of us consider ourselves good people.  We run the popular marathons, we contribute at weddings, and we tithe and generally try to do the right thing when we have the opportunity. Yet most good people also lie quite frequently.

How often, for example, have you lied in order to get out of a social request (“I’d love to come, but I’m busy that night”)?

How often have you lied, or asked your children or co-workers to lie on your behalf, when you get a phone call from someone you don’t want to talk to (“Tell them I’m not here!” or “I’d love to chat, but I’m late for a meeting”)?

How many couples regularly lie to each other for fear of hurting each other’s feelings or getting into a conflict (“I’m not mad; I’m just upset about work” or “Yeah, I’ll be home in a minute”)?

It seems to be really interesting just how far we can go for self-preservation!

I am not one to judge or even complain about it as what goes around may sooner or later come around, but just attempting to grapple at it with just one hand and not take it too personal.

I think I get it and allow me to extrapolate a little. (a big word finally hehehehe)

Keeping one’s word allows you to set your trust-able levels to be matched all the time by yourself and in the eyes of the asker, give a good level of confidence in you to do what you said you will do with no flinch in your mindset no matter the hesitation. However, and this is the crux (another big word hehehehe), maintaining high levels of trust are always a remedy for some form of tricky situation whereby your failure (even if minute to all levels) will be seen as a huge catastrophe yet you are above all else human!

So to manage this, incorporate the words;  maybe, maybe not, no, not this time, it seems to be looking tricky in your vocabulary to endeavour that you are still seen as human and not a full time closer that may cause you to have a clean streak of pluses and one negative that takes all those pluses back to zero….





Mental Obligations

2 11 2010

I am actually at this stage in my ishy ishy life where the mind is constantly pondering at what happens next…

Seriously…

I have been trying to blog about it for such a long-ish time and realised that there in lies the problem…

TRYING!

Truth be told that being Mr. Back2Basiks ain’t all as sexy as it used to be…

Having nice stuff to write about off the top was a dope experience…

Dropping hilarious joints and getting tonnes of comments (excuse the pun Chanel) is still a nice feeling…

But deep down, the whole ish of actually going B2B does make life a little deeper and sometimes all the more crap if you know what i mean…

You see sometimes you wanna play both sides of the coin, and deep down that opportunity avails itself…

Too bad that this might be the only selfishness that you might ever achieve..

EVER…





-No-Basikness-

31 07 2010

So I been hanging with a coupla lady friends of mine the past coupla years, and in between the odd 6 months of not seeing them, we always check up on each other(s) every once in a while when something major happens. You see I and my set of female hommies have made me sort of clique the female psyche…

Now one of them is close to her pops….

One of them lost her pops when we was at Uni together

The other does not talk to her pops at all

The other is an on and off sorta thing with her pops…

For sake of following through on B2B’s let’s just call each of them as below.

Smooth is close to her pops; ShyG lost her pops when we was all at Uni;

LadyJ does not talk to her pops, and MissTee is in an on and off thing with her pops…

So back2basiks I say…

Whenever one of them would meet a dude who sorta has potential, work with me here…. They would individually come to me and ask my opinion… Initially I had no idea that the bearing of my words would actually influence whether or not these young chaps had a chance of:-

A: getting in any of the afore mentioned hunnies’ pants;

B: getting to know these hunnies a lot more before getting in aforementioned hunnies’ pants;

C: getting any one of these hunnies to flip head over heels for the dude and having a real lasting relationship…

D: not even giving the chap the time of day and evaluating whether he is worth anyone’s salt…

You see, chics unlike men are not the hunters (although these days, a certain type of assertiveness is believed to be very sexy), but more often than not are the hunted.

But in true upbringing, they are not taught what discerns The_Smooth_Talking_Hunters, The_Average_Hunter, The_Weak_A**_Hunter, and finally The_Hunters_You_Are_Sure_As_Hell_Will_Never_See_Coming!

So, in response to days, weeks, weekends, months, quarters and years of listening to my female hommies making poor decisions repeatedly, and crying on my shoulder about it… I have resolved that when Little Jasmine is born, she will mosdef be the female equivalent of the Basikness….

MissTee is the only person in the aforementioned clique who actually learns from her immediate experiences…. The only time she rebounded was when she was put in touch with one of those Hunters_You_Sure_As_Hell_Never_See_Coming!

She realised half way into the journey that she was a pit stop, and resolved to end it before he leaves her hanging… Good head on her shoulder and some lingering memories

ShyG, well… This one is actually complicated… So much so that when I found out what is currently her situation, I took a whole Saturday afternoon and Sunday evening to write out to her a deep email asking how she is… No not those simple 3 or 4 lined emails… it was one of those emails where you open up a Blank Word Document and write out a bunch of things that we both went through way back when none of us new what a retake was… Neither of us new what diapers meant and well other things… As I write this, she is happy and yes, wiser now

LadyJ used to be stuck in a rut and until she read that book I sent her, well… I obviously know that she reached there mostly by herself, but it does feel refreshing to know that sometimes you have a positive influence in one of your close friends’ lives without it being forced upon

Smooth seems to have gotten over her fair share of dramatistikal issues learnt from dealing with Boys as opposed to Men. So those one on one heartfelt discussions with her Pops really gave her an edge… Not to say that her experiments were not with their own crazy results, but all in all, she got a little basikness from her Pops in some weird way.

So in all fairness and honesty, can I clearly say that a Good Girl goes bad because of no basikness….??

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I am glad to be writing again…

Lucy, Carsozy, Carlo, Ivan, Chanel, Cheri, SoloDawgKing, Heaven, Sy, Tandra, AntiPopeth, SleeknWild, Dante… (ok, we know Dante flushed blogger like decades ago), Val, Iwaya (who also quit the keyboard), and Pete’sMomz..

The regular blogren….

Drop another post sometime





song-tag

13 12 2009

If you get any ideas, drop them at yours..

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1. Song that makes you dance, no matter what:
”Freak Out” by C’est Chic

2. Song you’d use to tell someone you love them:
”he loves me” by Jill Scott

3. Song that has made you sit down and analyze the lyrics:
“Can’t stop” by Red Hot Chilli Peppers

4. Song you like that a two-year old would like:
”sankalewa” by don’t remember

5. Song that gives you an energy boost:
“rosa-parks” by Outkast

6. A song you and your grandparents would like:
“suddenly” by Billy Ocean

7. Song you really liked when you were in high school that you still like now:
“What Ya’ll Want” Eve featuring Nokio, and Ruff Ryders, “next episode” Dr. Dre ft Snoop

8. A sad song that would be in the soundtrack of the movie about your life:
“sometimes you can’t make it on your own” by U2

9. Peppy song that would start the opening credits in the movie of your life:
“Get Money” Notorious BIG ft Junior M.A.F.I.A

10. A good song from a genre of music that no one would guess you liked:
“we ride” by Kirk Whalum ft Jaheim

11. Song you think should have been playing when you were born:
“rock with you” Michael Jackson

12. Favorite duet song:
”love is” Brian McNight + Vanessa Williams

13. A favorite song you completely disagree with:
”Sometimes” by Britney Spears

14. Song that you like despite the fact that your IQ level drops several points every time you listen to it:
“my name is” eminem

15. Smooth song for relaxing:
“teardrop” by Massive Attack (opening song to series House-MD)

16. A song you would send to someone you can’t stand:
“buggaboo” Destiny’s Child

17. Favorite political track:
“where is the love” Black Eyed Peas (um, this isn’t a political track, but it definitely sends home a potent message…)

18. Favorite track from a band considered a “super group”:
“she will be loved” Maroon 5

19. A song that makes you reminisce about good times with a family member:
“Time to party” Craig David

20. Favorite song from a soundtrack:
“Touch me Tease me” Case ft Foxxy Brown (from The Nutty Professor I) and “I’ll give you love” Rachael Yamagata (from PRIME)

21. Your favourite song RIGHT now:
” Everything,  Everyday, Everywhere” Fabolous ft Ryan Leslie and Keri Hilson

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Tagging Tumwi, Giko, and Sy and anyone who has reached here to see his/her name on the Basiks Joint





|Looking | The | Part |

6 11 2009

Truth be told, we are always surprised at how cool certain people look when they are in their element. You don’t believe me do you StreetSyder? Seriously, coz I have not even dropped the punchline…

I met a couple of my old skool chums a few months ago at a corporate presentation on Housing Finance in the Ugandan economy.. . The main presenter was a supposedly highly experienced corporate finance expert with a PhD thesis in the Mortgage sector of Eastern Europe including Turkey, Poland, Bulgaria, Czech Republic et al…

He had done the bulk of his research from both his home country of Hungary and spent at least two months hanging around the larger financial type institutions within the above mentioned countries…

When he was introduced as Dr. Stetho Financial Listiks, I was not moved as distinctly recall being asked by my former boss (yeah Tumwi, the one with really nice legs), to read about something real hard before making any form of presentation about it. She cautioned me to test the presentation first in the mirror to build my confidence first but above all, make the presentation a little bit (just a little bit AntiPop) skewed to seem like it revolves around the recipient of the presentation.

So when Dr. Financial Listiks was intro’d with his amazing PhD in Financial Economics, I was waiting with bated breath to be PhD’d into Mortgage Heaven. What proceeded was the most interesting presentation on housing finance in my short history.

He proceeded to simplify all the basiks of interest rate setting for condominiums (tandra, that’s condo to you), the impact of reduced savings on lending rates, increased economic activity and its relevance in smaller economies, increased presence of financial institutions and how this flattens the financial landscape, the difference between renting, leasing and purchasing and finally the impact of increased government spending on the housing sector.

All in all the technical part of the presentation was pretty amazing, considering that sometimes I am hard to please… (ask Mrs.Basiks) Anyways, after the display of his financial acumen, Dr. Listiks said thank you and good night. I for one (mind you I was writing out some of his technicalities and waiting for the Q&A session), was taken aback.

You see Dr. Listiks had shown us his above average corporate finance knowledge (with a name like Financial Listiks, who could say much, Ivan do you copy?), but he absolutely did not relate any of it to the Ugandan Sector.

What the email invite said was; Lessons in Eastern European Mortgage Finance and how it can affect the Ugandan Model. I wasleft wondering why almost 92% if the time, people who look the part never fulfill the look and assume that coz their intro is snazzy, they can’t prove that the snazziness is the real-deal (just like Holyfield, Ask Mike Ty)

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Fast forward a whole 12 months later, and Dr. Listiks is back with a doper presentation highlighting the exact same presentation but with the words HOW IT CAN AFFECT THE UGANDAN MODEL…

I have learnt that whatever is said to peeps that relates to them will always make them want to listen to you…





the man who can’t be moved…

24 10 2009

Going Back to the corner where I first saw you
Gonna camp in my sleeping bag I’m not gonna move
Got some words on cardboard, got your picture in my hand
saying, “if you see this girl can you tell her where I am”

Some people try to hand me money, they don’t understand
I’m not broke I’m just a broken hearted man
I know it makes no sense but what else can I do
How can I move on when I’m still in love with you

Cuase If one day you wake up and find your missing me
and your heart starts to wonder where on this earth I could be
Thinkin maybe you’ll come back here to the place that we’d meet
And you’ll see me waiting for you on our corner of the street
So I’m not moving, I’m not moving

Policeman says, “son you can’t stay here”
I said, “there’s someone I’m waiting for If it’s a day, a month, a year”
Gotta stand my ground even if it rains or snows
If she changes her mind this is the first place she will go

Cause If one day you wake up and find your missing me
and your heart starts to wonder where on this earth I could be
Thinkin maybe you’ll come back here to the place that we’d meet
And you’ll see me waiting for you on our corner of the street
So I’m not moving, I’m not moving,
I’m not moving, I’m not moving

People talk about the guy that’s waiting on a girl
There are no holes in his shoes but a big hole in his world

Maybe i’ll get famous as the man who can’t be moved
Maybe you wont mean to but you’ll see me on the news
And you’ll come running to the corner
cuase you’ll know it’s just for you
Im the man who can’t be moved

Going Back to the corner where I first saw you
Gonna camp in my sleeping bag I’m not gonna move